Ever notice that one of the quickest ways to get a compliment is to tear yourself down? It seems like people who would ordinarily never piss on you if you were on fire will tell you nice things if you publicly shred yourself.

And the converse is true as well, say something nice, however true, and they're sure to pick at you for being egotistical and vain. It seems that we as people can't handle those who are out of dead center mediocratic ego.

Try to do something, and you will hear a million reasons why you can't, why it's crazy, how you'll hurt yourself, why you'll fail.
(Try running a marathon, try learning korean, try acting, try starting a business for example)

However, decide you can't do something, and the world will strive to tell you that you can, and that you should. (Try not reenlisting in the army, try to decide that you can't draw, try not drinking, try not ever cheating on your wife while away.)

I've done, or not done, all these things, (well, I'm still working on the marathon) in their respective categories, and every time I make a decision, someone is always there to try to talk me into the opposite. Does this happen to you? How do you react?

P.S. Dad, I love ya, and I will finish my comittment, but I'm not doing twenty in the army, no matter how many times you say it.

Comments
on Nov 23, 2004
You got that pegged completely, SPC. I think humility is a virtue, and when you humble yourself people will lift you up, and vice versa. Are you considering reenlisting?
on Nov 23, 2004
How true! This article is one of life's mysteries and lessons.
on Nov 23, 2004
I never really thought about what uve talked about until now and how true!! thanks!
on Nov 23, 2004
Some kind of weird reverse psychology? I guess, because we're not supposed to boast about how good we are, yet sometimes we want the recognition/reassurance from others, so we talk ourselves down in order to get it? Kinda twisted. Then again, we can't very well say, "Gee, I'm feeling a little insecure. Would you mind boosting me up so I'll feel better?" - although this probably would be healthier.

True, humility is a virtue, I agree, TW. But I think that humility would not draw attention to himself by puttinig himself down any more than he would draw attention by being boastful. Humility is quiet.

on Nov 24, 2004
Insightful article, SPC Nobody.

I've noticed this as well. I keep a lot of things myself because of it, especially about my real life goals. I just rather not have anybody comment negativities when I'm positive about something.
on Nov 24, 2004
people are just contrary, thats all


That's not true!
on Nov 25, 2004
Great observations full of truism. We humans can be so contrary sometimes.
on Nov 26, 2004
Are you considering reenlisting?


never.
on Nov 26, 2004
never.


That sounds like a maybe to me!

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! (copyright chiprj 2004)

on Nov 26, 2004
never.


on Nov 26, 2004
He he he . . .
on Nov 26, 2004
Are you considering reenlisting?


never.


Good Choice, maybe.............

I left the Navy after 6 years and was able to get a great job and start in school, but life on the outside sucks as much as what your doing now in some ways and retirement isn't until your 50's unless your want to live like a dog to save for retirement.

No I wouldn't go back now but, sometimes I think it wouldn't have been so bad to put up with it a little longer............

Put some serious thought into in before you seperate or maybe see what there is available to move over to the Coast Gaurd or Air Force..... I do wish I had looked into moving to the Coast Gaurd and finishing my time......
on Nov 26, 2004
BTW I had the strong "Never" attitude also when I got out.........
on Nov 26, 2004
Air Force.....


Adrian had been thinking about that, but it's not likely to be an option since the AF is downsizing and trying to nudge people toward the Army. AF seems to have it better in some ways (though it doesn't seem that dharma's husband has gotten any of the AF v. Army perks).